So many singles out there have the fear that they will never meet someone. The online dating apps have changed the way we meet people so drastically and sometimes it feels like you have more failures than successes. Now with the pandemic in play it’s that much more awkward trying to figure it all out.
The truth is there are 7 billion people on the planet and if you think about things realistically you will quickly realize that it’s unlikely that you’ll be alone forever. You may have to change up your strategy or get your head right before you meet them.
Don’t Give Up
A lot of people just give up. They say it will never happen, there’s nobody out there for them they are just destined for a life of aloneness. Some people believe love will come to them if they stop looking.
The reality is that giving up isn’t helpful either. Inaction never creates success in anything we do in life. I’m not asking you to behave in a desperate manner. I’m just saying that it’s okay to view finding the love of your life as something you invest your time in.
I know with COVID it’s been more and more difficult to meet new people. It’s frustrating but there are still ways. Back in the spring of 2020 when things first shut down here in Canada I started doing video group calls online for people on singles pages on Facebook. I recognized that people were feeling alone in this foreign experience we were having. I was bored out of my mind not being able to socialize and really needed to be in contact with people. It was really a fun way to meet new people. We sat on there socializing and sometimes would get in in depth conversations where we talked for hours. Once things opened again we had coffee meet n greets and could actually meet in real life. This worked especially well for those who were a bit shy because it felt like we all had already met. People have slowly made connections. I’ve made some amazing new friends!
Join Various Interest Groups
Try to join various groups that have to do with your interests. Perhaps you like art or music. There are plenty of online groups to join that are interest focused. During this time you can get to know people online and then when life opens again you can have fun doing things you’re interested in with people who share that. You never know who you might meet?
What about joining activities that are experience focused. What I mean is that if you’re a single parent maybe join a single parenting group where others will share and support each other through this life experience. You might meet someone you wouldn’t otherwise have and at least you will start off knowing you have something in common.
Consider that it might be you
Do some self reflection. Are your current life choices putting you in a position to find your match? Sometimes when we start feeling defeated with trying to find someone we start pushing people away and making poor choices. Maybe that one nightly glass of wine turns into a bottle, maybe we start dabbling in the the FWB realm, maybe we stop taking care of our appearance. Whatever it may be try to consider that you could be hindering your relational success all by yourself.
Try not to come off as desperate!
At the same time – try not to come off as desperate. Sometimes we’ve waited so long to find that right person and then once we think they are there we are afraid something will happen and we will lose them. Hanging on for dear life can push people away. This can be super uncomfortable for the person on the other side of you. It’s okay to take some time to get to know one another and have some distance between you. You both have come to each other as strangers and it really does take time and intention to get to know each other. Try to be realistic through this time.